All of the guys who reach out are heartbroken -- I mean f*cked up over a girl. Each of these men want only one thing -- a concrete solution to winning their exes back. Look, I've been through multiple breakups and can attest to the inevitable pain and misery each party will experience.Breakups SUCK, regardless of how toxic or inconsistent the relationships were. Aside from situations involving abuse or something parallel that I'm not qualified to even comment on -- the average formula for a breakup is as follows: Hits pretty close to home doesn't it?Being heartbroken will actually help, because being so emotionally involved with an ex means you won't pay much attention to the new man - and are a challenge without even trying. Every woman we know who moved on quickly realised with hindsight that the man she had been pining for was wrong for her.Adapted by Catherine O'Brien from The New Rules: The Dating Dos And Don'ts For The Digital Generation by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, published by Little, Brown on January 8 £12.99. Throughout the past few weeks, I've received an overwhelming amount of emails and DMs from guys who are reeling from devastating breakups.
(Well, for that first week after breaking up, she totally hates you and wants you to burn in the pits of hell, but that rage is short-lived.)You dated for a reason -- I'm assuming because you loved each other.When we wrote dating bible The Rules in 1995, it became a bestseller.Our premise was that women who played hard to get got their man, while the women who showed too much interest didn't.If a man is calling you after midnight, he's looking for sex, not a date, and may well have sent the same text to ten other girls at the same time. Text, phone and Skype conversations should be a maximum of 15 minutes - and you should always be the one to end it. Wait 24 to 48 hours to confirm a friend request from him and NEVER write on his wall or 'like' his status updates.A Rules Girl likes herself too much to be so undervalued. That basically broadcasts the fact that you're into him to everyone. One of the biggest mistakes women make is to constantly post status updates or tweet.The book was translated into 27 languages and helped a generation of women find their Mr Right. Now texting, Facebook, Twitter, Skype and online matchmaking sites have revolutionised the dating landscape.It's more complicated than ever to manage your romantic life. Our new book tackles exactly that question - and here, in an exclusive extract, we show you how to handle texts, emails, Facebook and online dating...He can cause you public humiliation in addition to private anguish. The best way to cope is to start dating again immediately.But NEVER write angry texts, emails, posts or tweets in retaliation. We mean tonight or tomorrow - not a month from now.The same rule applies to texting and all other social media.So NEVER ask men out by text, Facebook or on instant messenger.