Can you try to go to sleep as early as possible at night so u at least get that 3-4 hr block.
Even better, can u go down even earlier (like 7-8pm) and let DH do the shift before babies bedtime, so u get an even longer break.
I just have one kid who is just over one so I am by no means an expert but I wanted to say that there are lots of mums who have been where you are. Like NC said it’s not always depression, sometimes it’s just complete exhaustion. You don’t have to, but I did it with my first who wouldn’t sleep except on me and that did get me a bit of extra sleep.
At that age my son only day slept on me in a wrap and I remember the exhaustion. In my experience the first 12 weeks are hard, let alone the issues you've experienced. - enlist any help you can from family/friends with housework,childcare, cooking while you rest/nap. - most chemists have a free weekly baby nurse clinic- go and see them and chat. Even turning 45 minute blocks into 2 hour blocks really helps.
You are doing a wonderful job, please dont doubt that.
It sounds like youve done a wonderful job getting your baby help for reflux.
I have had a couple of longer bursts of two hours but I usually don’t get any sleep as I am constantly waiting for him to wake up any minute. I am having trouble dealing with the lack of control and feel like I can’t talk to anyone irl as I’m afraid they will judge me.
The first weeks prior to diagnosis the only way I could get any sleep was to live on the couch after the midnight wake up. I’m not the kind of person who is comfortable asking for help or admitting that I need it so it’s really difficult, even with everyone offering.
Take care, and keep checking in here if you need to vent - lots of EB members have been where you are now x Edited by Nobody Cool, 02 March 2018 - PM. We chat, ask questions and vent about this sort of thing all day and we are in the same stages together. Hey, I didn’t want to scroll past this without saying wow you must be so exhausted and also I think you are doing an amazing job. xxx You poor thing, not sleeping was a completely nightmare for me as well.
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We were also excited if we got four hours sleep overnight (which was rare). The after midnight wakeups could be some reflux, being cold, being hungry, being gassy or just being a baby. - look up your local/government community child health centre and book into their programs. - eat well when you can, fruit, protein, boiled eggs, wraps, cereal, milk and dairy. Even if you can't sleep just lay down and rest. Another thing I did the first few months was try and mentally switch my day into two parts; night shift and day shift.
All I can say is lean on your supports and you are in the toughest time. The spectrum of normal is so vast and it changes so don't seek out what your babe should be doing to be normal but just look at ways to adapt to help YOU. It helps to shove them in there and they'll sleep, while you eat, do some stuff like chuck washing on and then sit and relax. You and your partner have to share those wake-ups so you get some sleep. So in the morning before DP went to work, I would go get a coffee by myself then I’d look after her till he got home.